I'm a liar and a fraud

I’ve been lying to you, and I want to come clean.  One of the things I value the highest is honesty and authenticity, and I just can’t continue until I tell you this.

I’m a fraud- I am not a super high achiever.  You know how you always hear of those super high achieving business wizzes- the ones who only need 5 hours sleep?  The ones who never eat sugar, that jump out of bed at 5am for a 10km run then meditation and affirmations?  The ones that have always, ALWAYS been dead certain on what they wanted?  That don’t watch TV or pay any attention to the news…?

The ones who got into the courses they wanted, but dropped out “because the school of life can teach me more”.  The ones who finished first, who won the prizes, who always has it together and organized?

Well, I’ve got to come clean and say, I’m not one of those.

I’m no Richard Branson, Warren Buffett, or some other superstar entrepreneur.  I haven’t got an island, an expensive car, a maid, and endless cash.  I still feel the fear.  I still question myself.  I still get upset when I accidentally upset others.

I don’t always finish first.

I certainly didn’t always know what I wanted.  (I’m still working that one out!)

I need 8 hours sleep a night MINIMUM, or I am cranky and grumpy as hell.  I have sugar in my tea, (a habit picked up from spending years in the UK).  I probably don’t exercise enough, and I can’t run 10kms to save myself.

I’ve had more “jobs” than some people have had hot dinners.  Not because I got sacked, (though I have, a couple of times…) I’m just really good at seeing opportunities when they come along and taking them.

At school, I wanted to work in theatre production, but was 3 years too young to apply for WAAPA.  So I went to uni, to do film and TV instead, and got into sound because no one else wanted to.  I studied at AFTRS, then worked in the industry in Sydney until I met a boy, and went travelling with him.  By accident.

Just as well I did, though.  I married him eventually!

I do watch the news, and I do watch TV.  I still have a passion for the craft, and also think it is important as a contributing member of society to be informed of the world around us, to make the right choices.  I’m a student of the news and media from way back, and I enjoy it.

I didn’t build a million dollar biz.  I didn’t sell my biz for sheep stations.

I did take a new concept to market, and go from $10K to $250K turnover in 4 years.  I did have a healthy net profit.  I did give myself weekends off, and get to ride whenever I wanted, cook dinner every night, take holidays and generally live a pretty good life out of it.

I did build an industry dominating biz and brand, ran it working part time hours out of my spare room, and I did sell it for the price I wanted.

Even better, I sold it on my terms, in my time frame, to the exact kind of person I wanted it to go to, who is now doing a truly AWESOME job with it.  How great is it to see something that you built, carry on being a rampaging success without you?

I haven’t won a Telstra business award.  (though I have nominated and acted as a referee for someone who did.)

I don’t have a business degree.  Or a marketing degree.  (but you know what, most people I have met that do have a marketing degree can’t market themselves out of a paper bag…. Kinda like those business “experts” at your bank who know NOTHING about running a small business… you know you’ve met one those, haven’t you?)

My first real business was a complete failure, and left me in debt.  But, man- did it teach me a whole lot of stuff!  Unfortunately I just had to learn that stuff the hard way.

I read novels, not self improvement books, for pleasure.  I love scifi, and at the moment am really into zombie fiction, (again because of the parallels it draws to the current media/ political climate).

I love champagne, real champagne, and have sampled probably over 30 different kinds.  My favorite ever was vintage Dom 1999, my “every day” fav is PolRoger.  But I wear $20 t-shirts from Target.  I’m not impressed by brand names, shiny things, or big houses.  I’m a big believer in “being content”, rather than “more”.

I don’t want kids.  Ever.  But I love my husband more than anything and for us, that’s enough.

I’ve made mistakes with my pony and my beagle, I’ve done things that make me cringe just thinking about them.  I’ve learned from those mistakes and it’s made me a better horse owner, rider and dog owner.

I don’t work 120 hour weeks, and I certainly don’t think that you should either.

I’m a liar and a fraud.  Get Up & Gallop is a new venture for me.  I’ve always been willing and happy to help when approached by various local businesses here, looking for advice and guidance and feedback.

Now I know I want to help even more business owners, and I know I can, and in a more meaningful and long term and powerful way than just a few emails back and forth, or meetings over coffee.

I’m a fraud.  I’ve let myself be taken advantage of in the past.  I’ve been conned.  I’ve let myself be bullied because I wanted to be liked.  I’ve let business “friends” talk for hours about their problems, and offered help, when not once have they asked me “how are things with you?”

I’ve let myself get so upset when these people send me an email berating me for an off the cuff (but true to myself) remark, when they have still not given a shit about what’s been going on with me.

I’ve allowed myself to be a puppy dog to these bullies, thinking if I keep being nice they’ll get over themselves.  (They won’t.)

I’ve let those bullies change who I am really am.  I lied and hid.

I am sick and tired of hearing stories of people investing thousands in courses that take them years to pay off.  Where there is no return on their investment.  Where they are simply part of a wheel turning a bigger cog, and making money for the person at the end, and not for themselves.

So I want you to know the truth, I want to stop being a liar and a fraud and lay it all out there for you to see.  This is new for me, I’ve only had a handful of paying clients work with me over the last year.  There are a lot of reasons for that, but its not because I don’t care.  It’s not because I haven’t had interest.  It’s not because I’m lazy.

I’m not here to help all the wounded sparrows out there who aren’t ready for change.  I’m not here to say nice things all the time and prop up your ego.  There’s other people who can do that for you.  I’m also not here to control or trick you into buying something you don’t need, or are not ready for.  (there’s other people who can do that for you too!)

I’m here for you if you are ready to learn, to challenge yourself, to reach your goals and make a bigger difference than you already are.  But you have to want it, MORE than I want it for you.

If you want to work with someone who will share with you not only how to do things, but the lessons I’ve learned from doing the wrong things…. If you want help from someone who is upfront and forthright and will call you on your bullshit….  If you want to work with someone who won’t try and NLP you to solve all your issues, or promise you the world and deliver a peanut…

Then I want to work with you.

I know, in my heart of hearts, that I have something great to offer you.  That what I can teach you will make a difference.

I wish that I knew me, 5 years ago.


I was a liar and a fraud.  I was “faking it till I made it”.  I won’t do that any more.  This is me.  This is who I am.  This is what I can offer you.  If that works for you, then stick around.  If not, then please, unsubscribe from my mailing list right now.  There’s a link at the bottom of the email.


This shit is getting real from here on in.

Giddy up!

No make up, no faking, just me, being silly, like I do. :)

No make up, no faking, just me, being silly, like I do. :)

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Written by Anita Marchesani
I've come to small business the long way round- but enjoyed and learned from every single step. I learned about the power of Media during a BA and while working in Film&TV. I learned about the hard graft while groom for an international eventer in the UK. I learned organisation and staff management from running hundreds of weddings both here and in the UK. I learned from the mistakes of my first business that failed, to create an e-commerce success story, and now I'm here to help you have even greater success in your business. Oh, and I dance to really loud music like a crazy bastard.